Living life by Loving Yourself- A guide to “SELF LOVE”

Everyone in this world gets upset when others criticize them. Everyone is feeling demotivated in different fields of life. All this comes by “Not Knowing Yourself” as well as by “Not Loving Yourself”. By being aware of your capabilities and qualities, you can bring happiness and love in you life. “SELF LOVE” is the door to happiness so just welcome it in your life.

HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF IN ABSENCE OF SELF-LOVE 

Before making the entrance of Self-Love in your life, you must be aware of  how you think about yourself on the physical and inner level.

Physical level:  Comparing our physical appearance to others have become part of our daily life. As soon as you see someone beautiful than you,  you think that other person is better than me. Which is not true at all. Through self love you can eliminate these thoughts.

Being Self:  This is on a much deeper level. Not only you say bad things about your physical appearance but you even sometimes criticize your inner self. If you fail to achieve any particular task or a goal, you immediately tag yourself as if you are not capable of anything. Which is not true either. A person who love himself can never self criticize himself.

Lets decide from today that,  from today onward you will not criticize yourself. Neither will think any bad thoughts about yourself.

 

“HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF?”

For being happy you must know about your qualities and about the ways in which you can love yourself. Self-love comes from inside, but sometimes it becomes tough to be that strong. So, in order to develop love within yourself, here are some simple and easy ways through which you can achieve it.

  • Appreciate Yourself:

This is the easiest and the most effective way towards the journey of self-love. Appreciate yourself for every good things you own. Have a self-positive talk, give yourself a gifts, pat your shoulder whenever you achieve something. It’s not necessary that only others can appreciate you, first, you must appreciate yourself.

Every one of us have lots and lots of qualities, you just need to find yours. Appreciating yourself  will bring joy and love yourself life instantly

 

  • Accept Appreciation:

Few people might criticize you, but few of them will appreciate you also. Just focus on compliments. And make them yours. If someone says you did awesome!! Believe it. Enjoy those beautiful moments of life and you will start loving yourself even more.

  • Improve Yourself

Some people will criticize you and some will point out flaws in you. But don’t worry!!! Don’t accept everything they say. First check whether they are saying right or not. If they are right, then you must try to improve those flaws. If you feel that the person who is criticizing you is not right, then even better, just ignore them. But don’t let negativity enter your heart. Make criticism as an opportunity to learn and grow.

  • Giving

It is an old saying that: You Get What You Give

We always give what we have, it’s not only the material thing which you could give, but giving “love” to others is even more valuable. You can also give “appreciations”, “happiness”, “help”, “care”, “acceptance” to others. Talk sweetly and nicely to them. Share your happy moments with them and you will notice the change in yourself. You will feel good and love yourself even more.

  • Show Gratitude:

In life, you get so much good things, materially as well as in form of happiness. But what you always forget, is to give “THANKS” in return. Therefore, after enjoying what you have got, you forget those moments. Thus, the gratitude allows you to keep track of what good things happened in your life. You must thank God for everything he gave to you, not only God but, your parents, friends and even nature. This will make you feel lighter and will open more room for good things to happen.

TIP: This can be done by writing daily at night. List all the good things which happened in your life and write thanks for each and every good thing. Scientific studied have shown that exercising daily gratitude brings well-being and healthy life.

  • Let Go:

I know this is very common way to bring happiness and you must be knowing it already. But letting go is very important. This is because if you do not forgive others, then you think about the person again and again, which brings more negativity in life. So, for welcoming positivity and love in your life, just forgive people for their mistakes, let go of your any bad past and never cry for anything in life. Always remember that

Everything Happens For a Reason and Everything Happens for Good

  • Limit Your Free Time:

You always think most when you have “Free” time. At that time, you think of either past or future. What you must do is to bring your focus back to “Now” and think of how you can utilize this time so that you can be proud of yourself. So before getting trapped into the web of waste thoughts,  have a collection of your hobbies and passions in front of you and start to learn and grow.

TIP: For help on letting go waste thoughts, check my last blog on  “How to stop waste thoughts“.

  • Support Systems:

Surround yourself with the people who make you feel special and loved. This will Boost Your energy level and you will always be happy and energetic. So, when you’ll find yourself in any hard situations, these people will pull you up and and you will always be Happieee.

EFFECTS AFTER EXPERIENCING SELF LOVE:

Invite SELF LOVE to your life and see the positive changes in every stage of life. There is no limit to the happiness you will achieve after experiencing the fruit of loving yourself. Few of life changing experiences after developing self-love are as mentioned below..

  • Self-love eliminates mental problems such as:  Sadness, Unhappiness, feelings of depression, lower self-esteem, mood swings etc.
  • Self love will boost your: Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, Lower your Expectations
  • Social life will improve: Relationships will improve when you appreciate and accept others, give love to them.
  • Self-Love allows you to grow externally as well as internally. Externally you always smile, laugh, feel joy, and internally you will be much stronger than before.
  • Learning new things, such as practicing your hobbies will make you talented,smarter and bring success in life.
  • Criticisms of others would have no impact on your happiness.
  • Since you love yourself others will love you even more.

These are just few of the happiest thing in life after including Self-Love in your life. Everyone have their own journey.  I hope you share your loving journey with me and everyone who is reading this blog:

Self-Love is The Best Gift You Can Give to Yourselves.

Provide me with your valuable feedback in the comments below. Your views give me motivation.

Love you all

Shine Bright

 

 

 

103 Comments Add yours

  1. sisabel says:

    You are beautiful. I need the reminder to love myself everyday! Thank you for sharing ❤

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thanks Sisabel….. 🙂 🙂 …. You got the exact message of my blog… I hope u shine everyday….. 🙂 🙂

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  2. Akash Maheshwari says:

    Good Thought!! Good Content!!

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      ❤ ❤ ❤ :* :*

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  3. Anonymous says:

    Wonderful thoughts.really appreciable👍

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thank you Mausi ji….. Loved to see ur replyyy… 🙂 🙂 😀

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  4. piya says:

    Amazng inspirng thoughts really..
    Nw i’ll let Go evry1’crtcsm bout me.. N dis happns to all..so thnx for dis wndrful thoughts …

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thnnnkksss sweetheart…….. love yaaa… 🙂

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  5. samarpan mukherjee says:

    Very-Very well written & presented, both content & thought wise, very inspiring & motivating, and has so much positive impact that it can definitely transform one’s life, if one really stars Loving him/herself. Very Very Well-Done Dear—–Keep Goooooinggggg………..

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thankkkksss a lot sir….. Needed your wishes….. 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  6. Shayra says:

    Thanks for sharing.Self-love is really important for oneself .Such a inspiring post👌

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thank you sooo much dear…. 🙂 ❤

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      1. Shayra says:

        Welcome 😊

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  7. Javed Siddiki says:

    Good keep it up

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thanks a lot dear….. 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  8. -Eugenia says:

    Beautiful and Inspiring! 😃

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thanks dear for your lovely replyyyyy.. 🙂 ❤

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thnxxxxx a lotttt dear… 😀 😀

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  9. Prachi says:

    nicely put Rishu ❤ especially the point about limiting ones free time, so crucial coz an idle mind is definitely the devils workshop!

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Soooo true Prachi…… if any1 can conquer his/her mind… he can achieve whatever he wants……. Thanks for the appreciation… 🙂 🙂

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  10. Madhusudan Somani says:

    Great post Rishu…
    But I think at night while going to bed we should think about our day. ie. What we did today, is it good or not etc. And planning for tomorrow will also help us to release stress and finally this give space for Self Love on our mind and heart.

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thanks a lot Madhusudhan, and really thanks for the great tip for stress removal.. it works all the time…

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      1. Madhusudan Somani says:

        Your most welcome Rishu Gupta.

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  11. Madhusudan Somani says:

    And BTW I couldn’t stop myself to share this great post…

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Glad to read this… thank you so much… 🙂 🙂

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  12. gaiainaction says:

    Such words of wisdom Rishu, very much enjoyed reading your blog post and will be following your blog too. Thank you for visiting and following my blog. Nice to meet you.

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      My pleasure mam… nd same here mam u’ve got nyc theme for ur blog… loved it… ❤

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      1. gaiainaction says:

        Thank you Rishu.

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  13. bismanaveed says:

    Rishu, this blog post is truly inspirational. Pondering over the past or future really gets you no where, what is important is that you value your self in this current moment. I’ll definitely look forward to more content like this. 🙂

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thank you so much Bisma….That is so true about being in current moment…. and sure, i’ll try my best to bring more content like this…. ❤ ❤

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  14. Rishu!
    What a wonderfully inspiring post. Thank you for sharing it with us all.
    Rae xx

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thanks a lot dear….. 🙂 🙂 🙂

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  15. Implugged says:

    I believe you can work a bit on your theme. You will go a really long way if you post regularly.
    Nice job !

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Thanks implugged.. its just my 2nd blog… so i m still on my learning journey… and will definitely consider this tip….. Thanks a lot for the review… 🙂

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      1. Implugged says:

        Nevermind, I know you will do great 😊

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      2. Rishu Gupta says:

        Thankss for the support…. 🙂

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Sooooo much pleasure to see this.. Really..!!!!! You inspired me to move ahead for more contents,,,,, Thanks a lot Dear…. loved to see this…. ❤ ❤

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      I am sooo glad that u reblogged my post… Really… Loved to meet you…. 🙂

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  16. Second blog…WOW…lovely writing style, have pressed the follow button and re-blog. Thank you for passing by and reading my post, it’ a pleasure to meet you.

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      Same here dear…. Mee tooo veryyy happyyy to read ur comment… Thnxxx a lot…. 😇😇😇

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  17. Ben Aqiba says:

    You are very wise Rishu.Thank you 🙂

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    1. Rishu Gupta says:

      So kind of You Ben… Thank you…. 🙂

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  18. danroberson says:

    Behind me are the places I’ve already traveled, the challenges I’ve overcome, and the direction I want to go. you are a very positive person and the targets you set keep you focused. Thank you for your wisdom and insight.

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    1. Rishu says:

      Lovely lines danroberson… A good way to love urself.. 🙂

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    1. Rishu says:

      Checked ur blog.. Great job dear… Loved it… 👍

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  19. Javed Siddiki says:

    Good

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    1. Rishu says:

      Thankss a lot sir.. 😊

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  20. chim326 says:

    HI, this post was very well-written and exactly what I was looking for. In India, the concept of self-love is relatively little known. Good to know that you are spreading awareness through your blog. 🙂

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    1. Rishu says:

      Thats so true dear… In India self-love is hard to find… I wish people get awared of it and bring it to action…

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  21. Cairo Saint says:

    Great post as always ❤

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Rishu says:

      Thank u soo much Cairo….

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  22. loveselflife says:

    Beautiful and inspiring words. Love to hear such positiveness around the world. I have a blog on the same topic would love if you read it.
    https://loveselflife.wordpress.com/

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  23. Rishu says:

    Thank u soo much cairo… 😀

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  24. Rishu says:

    Thanks for the motivation dear… Your blog was really healpfull and full of wisdom… Loved it… Thnx..

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    1. Rishu says:

      Thanks michal… 😊

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      1. How long have you been writing

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      2. Rishu says:

        Just started.. 2 blogs in a month till now.. 😦

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      3. Wow still nice it takes one step at a time as you learn but your writing is good

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      4. Wow still nice do not worry just take one step at a time am also learning new and better ways to write and improve but your writing is good

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      5. Rishu says:

        Thankkkss michal.. Even your blogs were really good.. Almost we have same thinking… I am positive towards my blog.. Nd soon gonna be consistent in it….

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      6. Consistency is very key in blogging i also want to improve on that area. Which country are you from?

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      7. Rishu says:

        You are consistent dear… U’ve got lots of post…
        N yahh i am from India… And you…?

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      8. Haha not much want them to be more. Am from Kenya

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      9. Rishu says:

        Dont wrryyy u’ll long way dear… 😇👍👍👍

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      10. Haha thanks
        Apart from blogging what else do you get to do??

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      11. Rishu says:

        Working through life… Finding ways to be happy always……. 🙂 hehe…

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      12. Love the spirit me too am working through life trying to find my feet while at the same time enjoying life to the fullest. I have never been to india i would love to be there one day

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      13. Rishu says:

        Great job michal… Keep enjoyinggg… N yes.. U r most welcome to India… U’ll love it… 👍😊

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      14. Haha nice u r welcome to nairobi too are you on Whatsapp we could

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      15. Are you on Whatsapp we could chat there if you don’t mind

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      16. hey my good friend

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  25. Savannah says:

    I love this! I need to work on accepting compliments, Limiting my free time is such a good idea too – about to go read your other post about it 🙂

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    1. Rishu says:

      Thats soo sweet of you Savannah… !!!! Thank you soo much for you valuable feedbak… 😊😊😘😘

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  26. selviafei says:

    That’s really true.. thank u for the inspiring writing.. 😊

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    1. Rishu says:

      Thankkkss selviafei…. 😊

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  27. fauxcroft says:

    Self love the most important of all if you are to love others.

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    1. Rishu says:

      Very true.. Loving ourself attracts others to love us even more…

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  28. fantomwriter says:

    Wonderful piece. And yes, things do happen for a reason.
    There are times when you can’t find it in yourself to love

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    1. Rishu says:

      There is always something good in you, for which u can love urself… For the time u cant find good inside.. Dont worryyy… Keep calm Beleive on urself.. Dont wait for time to change do sonething outside to change your mood… This will surely work… Do wht makes u happy.. N u’ll change that time in just seconds…

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  29. wow! self-love explained wonderfully.
    Rishu, thanks for posting this. Loved it. xx

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    1. Rishu says:

      Thank you Himanshu… M happy that u loved it… Thanks a lot… 😇😇

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  30. You should write more. 🙂

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    1. Rishu says:

      For sure.. i am definitely gonna be more consistent in coming months… N thnxx for the suggestion dear… 😊😊

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      1. Yes. Writting is a talent, and you can play with words very wisely. I am not even an amateur in writing, but I can say you write pretty good.

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      2. Rishu says:

        Thankkkss dear for such an appriciation……. Really…. Ur words motivated me… Nd yes… U r a good writer too.. Have very creative lines… Thus ur words, are now an inspiration for me… Thank you so much… !!!

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  31. Amber says:

    Lovely post! This is something I definitely need to learn how to do, it’s hard for me to accept love from others let alone myself. Thank you for writing this, very inspirational!

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  32. Soul Gifts says:

    Wise words 🙂 If we do not love ourselves, we have nothing to give others. Thanks so much for the follow. WIsh you well 🙂

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  33. N says:

    So true, very recently I have realized that I was struggling with loving myself and determining my self worth. Now I am reading and writing about it. This is really helpful. Thank you for sharing it!

    I would appreciate if you could check my post on “SELF WORTH- HOW NOT TO MESURE IT” and tell me how you feel about it. https://opinionatedhead.com/2017/08/21/self-worth%E2%80%8B-how-not-to-measure-it/

    Love,
    N

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  34. uchenah says:

    “Lets decide from today that, from today onward you will not criticize yourself. Neither will think any bad thoughts about yourself”. I think calling our thoughts bad or good is self judgment. We should just accept them not label them as good or bad; for me, if I do that to my thoughts I will do it every other thing. What do you think?

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  35. triom says:

    Gracefully written

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  36. saikrishnapv says:

    It definitely works…. with some incidents of my life I felt really bad n I isolated.self love really helps u to bring back in ur lyf.Nevr ever expect from others its hurts deeply. So love urself n enhance ur positives.

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  37. kylie555 says:

    Such an inspiring post! Really enjoyed reading! Thank you 🌸

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  38. YunaNova says:

    Amazing article. Thankyou for sharing your wisdom and experiences.

    XoXo

    Daphne

    http://www.yunanova.wordpress.com

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  39. Ravisingh says:

    Great post.Why are you invisible now?

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